Post Divorce Advice
Of course you were prepared for this, you’ve pep-talked yourself a dozen of times that this is what you wanted. But when it comes down to the real thing, you suddenly forget a few important changes you need to begin with. Follow the checklist below or create one of your own that will outline the most significant (major!) reconstruction you have to do with your life.
B – BASK IN THE FEELING OF SINGLENESS. Don’t rush going into another relationship. Remind yourself that one of the reasons why you left marriage is owing to the fact that you have sacrificed much of yourself for the sake of another. Divert your attention from the neediness to be with someone by going over the legal requirements post-divorce.
I – INSURANCE FOR YOURSELF. So the previous insurance was canceled after the divorce settlement. Go and get one. Remember that without insurance, you will miss out on the benefits you are entitled to.
G – GO THROUGH THE POST DIVORCE PAPERS CAREFULLY. What with experiencing an emotional rollercoaster, your head was somewhere out there even as you set your attention to your legal counsel who was explaining and reviewing the finalizations. Never simply accept a clause you cannot understand to avoid regrets in the end.
C – CHANGE YOUR LAST NAME. Make singleness a little more obvious this way but more importantly, do this to state nonverbal acceptance and announcement that you are officially single.
H – HYPOTHESIZE A NEW FINANCIAL PLAN. This is a great help especially for single parents. Now that you’re earning alone for you and your child, a financial plan will help outline and define which aspects of your lives will need money the most and which ones could be altered or removed altogether.
A – ALIMONY REVIEW. The Alimony clause is the most important statement you have to fully understand just in the very case it isn’t being served or paid properly by the former spouse. If you’re the one paying for it, you might want to set up the mode of payment just in the very case your commitment to pay it maybe questioned.
N – NEGATE JOINT ACCOUNTS. As long as your account is shared with your former spouse, you also run the risk of sharing their debts. It would even be better to do this earlier, either when divorce is imminent, grounds for divorce is obvious or while you’re filing for divorce.
G – GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. If you’re staying in a place that haunts you with painful memories or even simply memories that weigh your productivity down, move to another city, town or country where you can start again.
E – ENJOY THE COMPANY OF PEOPLE GOING THROUGH POST-DIVORCE. Your family says “We understand” but they really won’t unless they’ve gone through divorce themselves. Your lawyer says “I am here for you” but only while the case is sill on-going. So who could better understand you than people who are going through or have been through divorce? Ask for some insights, you might just find new friends.
This checklist spells B.I.G.C.H.A.N.G.E. What does your checklist spell?
Finding Yourself After a Divorce
Is your divorce finalized and now that everything is settled you feel empty? Going through a divorce can leave a person traumatized and left feeling empty. It’s almost as if someone has died and the divorce process is a lot like the going to the wake. You are surrounded with loved ones comforting you along the way, but once the person is buried you go back to your day to day like and feel emptiness. It does not have to feel this way.
Regaining your self worth is not an easy task and if anyone tells you otherwise they are lying to you. The first thing that you should do if you are in the dumps about your divorce is ask yourself what would make you happy other than getting that relationship back? Sometimes the feeling of grief can be so overwhelming that it leads to a deep depression. It’s important that if you start feeling like this that you become proactive within yourself by attending counseling sessions with a professional doctor and discuss the direction that your life is headed in and start figuring out some short term goals that you can achieve.
The point of short terms goals is to start proving to yourself that you are worth something and that when focused you can achieve anything that is set in front of you. Where do witchcraft magic spells come in and how can they help? Spells are not for everyone and they will not solve every problem that you have, however they can be effective in bringing a little luck your way. It can be good to have a spell cast by a professional who knows exactly what they are doing and how to do it properly. When a witchcraft magic spell is cast properly it can help get you to your final goals faster than it normally would have taken.
Many people rely on psychics to give them something to look forward to. Where this can be a fun thing to do it is also important to make sure that it’s not something that you base every decision on and a reading is only recommended once every 6 months. Anything more than that can side track you from what you need to be focusing on. If you decide to go the route of having a spell cast, spells change the future and a psychic reading may not be as accurate.
All in all after a major divorce finding yourself again can be challenging, but once you take a step in the right direction it will be easier every day to put one foot in front of the other. Good luck!